Confused

[Miss Erable]

I don't know if my husband loves me anymore. Although he says he does, he doesn't seem to want to spend any time with me and hasn't been intimate with me for a long, long time. We are still quite young and I can't keep walking on eggshells for fear that he'll leave me (I love him very much). He thinks I overreact when I mention his lack of interest, but he never used to be like this. He has already left me briefly this year.

He is only interested in sport and his playstation. I'm feeling very lonely and confused. I don't think he would attend marriage guidance, and I spend my days in tears wondering what to do next. I have no financial support if we were to separate, and I have nobody to turn to.

[Kate]

Hi there,

You sound very lonely. Is there anyway that you can get involved in his activities - go and watch him playing sport or have a go beating him on the play station. there must be some way to re-connect and get under his barriers to find out what he wants out of life.

If you have only been married a short time, you may both be going through a stage of disillusionment (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/diffdisill/). This happens in lots of marriages. After the excitement of the romantic courtship phase, some people begin to wonder what next. The rose coloured glasses have come off and the little irritations set in. There is life beyond this, though. When each of you realise what is involved in making a relationship work, choosing to love, staying involved with each other, putting the other person first, working on communication (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/relbasictopic/).

One of the things that helped us in our early marriage was a Marriage Encounter weekend (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/servprov/marenhres/meang/). There are lots of similar programmes (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/servprov/) which give you the chance to go away for the weekend and work on your relationship. Might be worth a try.

All the best

Kate

[greek lover nyc]

hi
unfortunately this happens quite often ,my brother in law went through this
with his wife married 6 years no kids loves sports and baseball games every weekend but when it comes to his wife he has no time he would rather masturbate over a pono instead of making love to his 36dd 35 year old cute wife
what she did


she confronted him of her disaproval of no relationship and masturbation routines and he said that she intimidates him constantley in bed when there making love
such as quick hurry up ur not done yet?

she changed now she showers every time befoe making love, wears something sexy purfumes her body lights candles and takes her time now every thing is alot nicer plus get involved in his sports he would like that

sincerely greek lover