Anomm
9th August 2004, 09:06 PM
A year ago, my wife of 5 years told me she wanted to leave me and our 2 children. (2 and 1 year old) On a daily basis she would tell me she wanted to leave but when it came to it she would break down in tears and tell me she loved us too much to leave. This daily heart-break went on for 4 WEEKS until I ended up in hospital due to stress/depression. I tried to find what the problem was, wether it was me, the kids or anything else. After a LOT of question asking, she finally told me of a 1 night stand with a man that came into her work.
It was like being hit by a car. We decided to stay together, not just because of the kids, but because we love each other and more imoprtantly (to me) she told me she no feelings for this other man.
The problem I have, is that this isnt the first time I have had this done to me (previous relationships) and a bigger problem for me is what she told me - how it happened and what happened - doesnt add up. I am feeling more betrayed over this feeling of being lied too. I find it impossible to trust her anymore but our marriage is happy, the kids are happy and she says she is happy but I cant get over this because I still, after all this time, feel as if I am being lied too.
I cant carry on feeling like this, i tryed sitting down and talking to her but to no avail. Is this "normal" and if so how long does it take to stop feeling so hurt?
Plz help
It was like being hit by a car. We decided to stay together, not just because of the kids, but because we love each other and more imoprtantly (to me) she told me she no feelings for this other man.
The problem I have, is that this isnt the first time I have had this done to me (previous relationships) and a bigger problem for me is what she told me - how it happened and what happened - doesnt add up. I am feeling more betrayed over this feeling of being lied too. I find it impossible to trust her anymore but our marriage is happy, the kids are happy and she says she is happy but I cant get over this because I still, after all this time, feel as if I am being lied too.
I cant carry on feeling like this, i tryed sitting down and talking to her but to no avail. Is this "normal" and if so how long does it take to stop feeling so hurt?
Plz help