Married woman with same sex attractions

[msgalinga]

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I am so messed up in the head right now. I have been married for almost 20 years now. I love my husband and he loves me very much. I am his only sex partner, ( he has told me this and I believe him). I am happy with my sex with my husband. But I have this attraction to other women that is really messing me up in the head. I am born again christian and I know that it's not right for me too do this outside of my marriage and with another woman. I have had the feelings for other girls/women most of my teenage and adult years. I have been acting out on them for about 10 years now. I started out with having 3somes with m/f/f. And then it went to just being with other women alone. And now I have gotten addicted too chating on the internet with other women. I get into chat rooms and talk sex and even view and show web cam too others. It's like I am a Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde going on here. Cause I am one person when not on the internet and another when I get on here and play with other women. I don't talk too men online, I do try and make sure that it's a woman. And the other thing that is messing with my head is I have told my husband that this is the way I am and that I don't think I can ever change. To love me for who I am or leave me. And he said he loves me for who I am and he will not leave me for anything. but I don't want too tempt fate, cause it might drive him away. Our sex life is great and when I am online with other women talking I want more sex with him. But I know it's not right for me too think of another woman when I am with my man. I need help, if there is anyone else out there that is a woman and has dealt with this type of problem please email me at msgalinga@access4less.net. I need too hear from others that have the same things going on and to hear what they have been able too do in order to break this cycle going on in their lives. Please help me out, got good help for me not put downs please. I don't need to hear bad comments, I need uplifting comments please

[Liz]

Dear Msgalinga,

There is no doubt that some people struggle with feelings and attractions to others of the same sex. I don't believe that is what God wants for any of us, but I also know that He is a loving and compassionate God and that all of us struggle with temptations of different forms.

We have built up a good relationship with the True Freedom Trust (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/diffpressures/homos/tft/). They have helped us to know how to respond with humility and care to friends who struggle with these particular issues so we recommend that you contact them. you will fidn acceptance and understanding from them - they are people who have wrestled themselves with these issues while hanging on to their faith.

Keep in touch

Liz
:)

[msgalinga]

Liz, thanks for your thoughts about what I wrote in here. I am really needing too find some type of support. I do know that I can get over this feeling. I just need to find the right place or people too help me in this area. I have joined other fourm's online but not getting much reply yet. Thanks for your words again. Msgalinga

[Britney M.]

I have same problem, I have been married for 15 years now. I love my husband , but I just had a sex with girl who is one of my students , she is 22 and I feel very bad about that but on another hand I did something good form myself, I opened a new door in my life, now I know I am lesbian.
Do somethimes what is good for you, if you have somebody in your minds.
E mail me britneymauro@yahoo.com

:confused:
I am so messed up in the head right now. I have been married for almost 20 years now. I love my husband and he loves me very much. I am his only sex partner, ( he has told me this and I believe him). I am happy with my sex with my husband. But I have this attraction to other women that is really messing me up in the head. I am born again christian and I know that it's not right for me too do this outside of my marriage and with another woman. I have had the feelings for other girls/women most of my teenage and adult years. I have been acting out on them for about 10 years now. I started out with having 3somes with m/f/f. And then it went to just being with other women alone. And now I have gotten addicted too chating on the internet with other women. I get into chat rooms and talk sex and even view and show web cam too others. It's like I am a Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde going on here. Cause I am one person when not on the internet and another when I get on here and play with other women. I don't talk too men online, I do try and make sure that it's a woman. And the other thing that is messing with my head is I have told my husband that this is the way I am and that I don't think I can ever change. To love me for who I am or leave me. And he said he loves me for who I am and he will not leave me for anything. but I don't want too tempt fate, cause it might drive him away. Our sex life is great and when I am online with other women talking I want more sex with him. But I know it's not right for me too think of another woman when I am with my man. I need help, if there is anyone else out there that is a woman and has dealt with this type of problem please email me at msgalinga@access4less.net. I need too hear from others that have the same things going on and to hear what they have been able too do in order to break this cycle going on in their lives. Please help me out, got good help for me not put downs please. I don't need to hear bad comments, I need uplifting comments please

[Liz]

Dear Britney

I thought I'd just drop a brief note here, it being Sunday morning and all.

Do you really judge that "do something that is good for you" is what your marriage vows call for?? Don't they ask for you to do something that is good for your husband?? Having an affair, and that includes homosexual affairs, is a sure way to wreck your marriage - is that what you promised on your wedding day?

I suggest that you take a look at some of the articles in our section on same sex issues in marriage (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/diffpressures/homos/), both for yourself, and for your husbands sake.

This is the Christian Marriage forum - is a lesbian affair part of God's plan for your marriage???

Dave

[Elizableu]

How are doing now?