Need some good advice

[RON]

I am a 56y/0 man who is madly in love with his wife of 36 years. When we had been married for 10 years, things got rocky because of my partying etc. and my wife got involved with a man she rode to work with. We went through some tough times including a six month seperation and almost divorced and then got back together. We have been extremely happy for 26 years but for some reason I can't get the thought of the two of them being together and making love. How do I get over it? Thanks a bunch.

[Chaddy]

Dear Ron,

I have had something similar to deal with and it was a battle. I refused to allow the thoughts to develop as soon as I recognised them beginning. I deliberately thought of something positive.

It also helped to somehow park the situation that was causing things. This can be part of forgiveness and letting go i think. The affair happened, but it's over. It's no longer important anymore like any of the other things that others may have done in the past to you.

If all else fails then some counsellors are trained to help in these sorts of situations. I found someone praying for me helped too, if you believe in God.

[smackie9]

Ron, talk to your wife and tell her how you still feel after all this time. It may be the release you are looking for. She loves you and she will listen to you.