Relationship troubles...

[honeybunnybabytoes]

hiya everyone :)

well my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years now and up until about a year ago everything was perfect...we have been through a lot an still managed to get by without any hard feelings!

things have changed since then...
some how i have become really stressed out and to be completely honest a real grump... :(

all i seem to do is moan at him over the littlest things like not cuddling me when i want him to.. but its all a visious circle as..
he annoy's me which in turn i annoy's him so much so that he need time to calm down, but that annoy's me even further because i wanna know whats wrong an what i can do to help.. so i get upset as nothing has been sorted out an cry sometimes.. when he doesnt comfort me it just makes things worse..!

i believe it is affecting our sexual relationship also as its starting to slow down, there is not the same libido there..
i need to feel loved and wanted before the libido will be back to normal an i feel its going nowhere..

everything is getting to me just now and i want to know how to handle it as every stressor has me in a hightened state of anxiety :eek:
i want everything to be ok...

Is there anyone that can help me?

[jasminebose]

You say things changed about a year ago..can you remember what was happening then? Was there something that caused you to feel differently towards him?

Is your grumpiness (!) a general thing lately or is it just targetted at him? What I mean is, maybe you are down generally or maybe you are unhappy about something specific in your relationship.

My advice always centres round reading ' the surrendered wife' and sorry to keep going on about it but I think many women feel this sort of disgruntlement and general dissatisfaction with their man after a couple of years (or sooner!!) and this book can really help.

More info needed before I can give you specific advice!!
JZ

[honeybunnybabytoes]

well....
its really been a build up of a multitude of things!

i was having a really hard time fitting in at my first full time job and was under a lot of pressure from my boss at the time , who was not a very nice woman at all.... so he helped me through but i was going home in a state of worry an really didnt wanna go to work the next day..!

i then started my nursing course which most people say you have to be at least a little crazy to go into and now i know why...
the amount of paperwork an stress just to be able to help people an still classed an working class...

the course has brought about more discussions lets say..

an is there any chance i can have the reference to that book?

thanx for your reply :)

[Liz]

You can see more about the book here: The surrendered Wife (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/books/surrendered/).