Who's the father going to be

[jas]

My wife is pregnant and was having an affair around the time she become pregnant. We still are to have a scan, but is there a test to see who is father is whilst pregnant? The dates seem to work out when I was home..... How realible are the dates?
She said she wore protection.....

I am totally lost and losing it

:confused:

[Kate]

Hi again,

I've done a little research which seems to suggest that you can do a test during pregnancy, but it requires some blood from the baby which carries with it a small risk of termination. The blood is compared with that of the two parents. DNA testing can be done after birth.

Trying to work out the date of conception can depend on whether a woman's cycle is irregular or regular.

I know it's hard wanting to know the answers, but at this stage I'm not sure you can find a way to establish the facts. Is this actually the issue for you, or should it be about trying to re-establish your relationship with your wife? Does the future really depend on who's the father to this child, or should it depend on your commitment to your wife and your willingness to work through the problems you have got together?

I'm sure you'd love to get really excited about being a dad and you feel that you can't do that right now because of the uncertainty, but I still think that your wife needs your love and understanding right now to help her through. There's a lot going on for her right now.

If she didn't love you and want to work it out, it would be very easy for ehr to say the child was not yours and you would go. To me it seems very clear that she cares about you and wants to make things work.

Kate

[jas]

Thanks Kate, if you read the other post I put in, you may realise that I could not bring this mans child up, It would not be fair on me my wife and our son that we have. We are trying hard to rebuild our life but this is a big issue for me and not sure I can carry it with me for the whole of the pregnancy and then ask?

I am going home tomorrow so I will see how things are. I do understand what she is going through...

I just want the pain and anxiety I feel all day to go away... My wife does not know how I feel.. so we see.. I made it past another day.. Thanks kate