Marriage advice

[carley1977]

Hi! My name is carley.

I have recently married my boyfriend of 5 years this past september. Before we were married we talked about having kids and being married. When we first started dating I was young and didnt really think about having children. I even made commets that I didnt want any till I was 30. Well now that I am 27 and married I have changed my mind. Every time that I see a child or go shopping and see childrens clothes I get this overwhelming feeling that I want a child. I see no problem that I feel this way. I think that as people get older they have different feelings. My husband on the other hand is different. He wants to be able to have his freedom. We dont even do anything anyway but stay at home. Which is fine with both of us. He says that I change my mind with the wind. I agree that I change my mind, but not that often. I keep thinking that I cant stay with him if he never wants to have children but on the other hand we just got married. I am afraid that if I wait to long for him to change his mind it may be to late for me to have any children at all. I'm so torn I dont know what to do. If amyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated. I need to talk to someone who is not in the thick of it all. Thanks

[Lesley]

If you had agreed to wait until you are 30 then you only have 3 years to wait. Enjoy yourself b4 the kids arrive because once they do it all changes. I have 2 kids my 1st at 30 and 2nd at 32, my husband still thinks he can come and go like a single man. Drinks nearly all his wages and up to our eyes in debt. But I still wouldn't change my kids, might change him though. Good Luck