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hope_in_him
8th February 2004, 09:22 AM
My husband left me for a few weeks and just recently returned home. Our main problems are that he will not protect me from his 19 yr old son and 21 yr old daughter with their calling me names and being disrespectful. My h's problem is that he is so angered that my ex does not pay child support and he doesn't want to provide for them financially. He said when he came home that he is only going to pay 1/2 of the bills that we have, he's not going to help me pay off the 4 credit cards (that he maxed out and they are in my name), and that he wants to buy things for himself (motorcycle), and he's not going to "pay" for anyone elses children. I am so very crushed. I do work 3 to 4 days a week, and cannot work anymore days than that because any other days i would have to pay child care for my 2 youngest and wouldn't even make any money if i did work any more than i already do (the 3 to 4 days that i work, i don't have to pay childcare). I am a Christian who was a stay-at-home mother and now have a husband who says I have to pay for our needs and he won't do it. This is truly tearing me apart, he says he's a Christian, yet is acting so selfishly. Am I wrong to be so hurt that he refuses to provide for us? He expects me to take care of my 4 children, his son who lives here, keep the house clean, work , and pay for everything for my children and much much more. I feel like I'm hanging on a thread, with 3 or more job titles. Please help!!! Thank you.

me again
8th February 2004, 01:45 PM
Are you sure you want this kind of life. I've been living like that for a few years and have just woken up and smelt the coffee! A relationship is supposed to be a partnership, were supposed to support each other share everything this includes responsibilities.
Do you really want to have to support him as well as look after youre children? Because if he isn't giving you any support then you will end up carrying him! I hope this doesn't sound too harsh but I am suddenly feeling so much stronger since I decided to make the break. It is tough and does hurt but you will get over it and be a much stronger person for it! good luck!:rolleyes:

hope_in_him
8th February 2004, 04:50 PM
i know what you are saying, but it is so hard to do, i am giving him 1 chance and 1 chance only, it's just so shocking to hear those kinds of words from a supposive "Christian" man, especially when i make only a 1/4 of what he makes financially. it has just crushed my heart.