The other woman

[Unregistered]

About 3 months ago I discovered that my husband was having an affair. I confronted him and we have had many talks since. We have figured out alot of what our problems are and have really gotten along way to healing our marriage. The only problem that won't seem to go away is the other woman. She is a coworker of my husband and unfortunately we cannot afford for him to quit and try to find work elsewhere. He tried to transfer but they did not have openings at this time. The problem is she doen not seem to be getting the message that he made his choice. He wants to stay with me and our family. He told her that they would work together and when necessary they would discuss that but that they would not be friends or talk about anything besides that. But she continues to say things like why don't you talk to me anymore or why are you ignoring me. Just alot of things like this and more. I feel helpless I do not now what to do or if I am even supposed to do anything. My husband has found away to ignore these things. I can't seem to do this. I am lost and getting confused. I do not now what I am supposed to do!!!!

[Kate]

If I were in your shoes I would be supporting my husband and affirming him in what he is doing. I wouldn't get involved with the other woman - she will get the message in the end. It's hard not doing anything, but sometimes it is the best course to take.

All the best

Kate

[Unregistered]

Thank you, I know that you are right and I will try hard to do this.
It won't always be easy, patients is not always my strong suit.
As time goes on I am more confident in his feelings and I know that we will survive this. Thanks again!