individual counselling

[Unregistered]

Hello-

I have been searching for someone to discuss with on a one-to-one basis regarding recurrent problems in my relationship. Everything I find stresses the need to approach the problems as a couple, but there are some very important elements that I would like to discuss without my partner being involved in the discussion. Can you recommend any counsellors in the central London area?

[Dave]

We cannot directly recommend counsellors but if you look at our "Contact a counsellor" (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/counselling/contactcouns/) section you will find links to all the UK's major counselling directories to help you.

Alternatively you might simply try contacting London Marriage Guidance (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/services/lonmarguid/) directly.

Do remember that counselling is deliberately "non-directive" and "values free" - that is it doesn't seek to advise or show you what's best. The statistics show that what most couples need to work through their problems and have a really solid marriage is based in established values, clear advice on skills, and on-going support. Yo may therefore do better to find someone prepared to work with both of you using the Foccus (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/services/foccus/) or Enrich (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/articles/couplequiz1/) Inventories as a framework.

Best wishes

Dave

[Bellaio]

Hi,it has been three months since he left he comes and sees the children about twice a week ,but only speaks to me when necessary .How did we get this far he can barely look at me .
He has told me that he isnt living with his mum and dad,but not where h is living he told the children that he is staying with a friend,then today he said that his friend lent him a towel referring to her as she the children picked up on it and he said yes he has a friend that is a lady. Why cant he just tell the truth that he left me for this women and he was seeing her before he left .I cant stand the tought of him sharing his life with somone esle doing the things we did with another woman it really tears me apart .The man i spent the last 20 years with and shared things with that i could never share with anyone esle,is sharing these things with someone esle.It hurts so bad he was the only man i have every been with,what was so bad with our life that he had to go eslewhere.He now says i have to get a job now as he cant live on the money he has left.Yes i will get a job but i wouldnt put my children though anymore uphevel. And why should i still do what he tells me to do?I feel so bad my stomach is all screwed up i feel so as i could sit down and just cry but if i start i wouldnt stop.