problems

[depressed]

me and my husband have had alot of problems in the past 3yrs.But hes miltary and the past 4months since he got back from Kosvo it been real bad hes a porno freek. And he bought a motor cycle and now the only thing he wants to do is hang out with one friend i can't stand. And ride his motorcycle and race. He no longer spends time with me or our son like he use to.He won't go to consoling.I love him and i want things to work.But now it got so bad that he lives in the baracks.And not with us and comes over once in awhile.But he is not the same and i want things to change and back the way they use to be.I love him and i want him back home.It is soo hard dealing with this all by myself.Any suggestions.

[Kate]

Dear Depressed,

It is hard facing all that alone! Is there not someone in the forces who you can talk to a welfare officer or something?

Counselling is something you could consider for yourself, even if your husband isn't willing to co-operate. I guess you're based in USA, and we don't have info on US counselling, but you could try your phone book or a local church.

Do you have any trusted friends or family outside the army who could listen to you and support you in confidence.

If you want some advice on coping when pornography is an issue try the site (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/php-bin/jump.php?linkid=69) linked from our area on internet problems.

I hope that you can find someone locally to support you, and help you find a way forward.