hurt and don't know what to do

[Unregistered]

i am so confused. I left my husband a year ago because he kicked my son out, with inn a month and a half he found a girl friend 24 years younger then him this was devastating to me because i thought we were trying to work things out but i stayed around to try and work things out but he will not do anything to help our relationship he acts like he is lost without me but his actions show different he will not talk about the affair he will not talk about my son(his stepson) i dont know if i should try anymore please help.

[Kate]

Your posting is very brief so it's hard to know what to say. Do you know what you really want? What would be a step forward for you? Do you want to stick around and look for a way forward?

Counselling (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/counselling/) for you on your own is an option. It might help you to get clear what is important to you and what you want to do. Then you have the choice of telling him what that is and offering him the opportunity to choose whether he wants to work at your marriage or walk away.

It must be very hard to feel that you are the one making all the effort. I do hope you can find a way to engage him with the important issues that you need to face.

Best wishes

Kate