Trusting someone close to me again

[Lesloc]

I wondered if anyone could help me through this, recently found out something about my lover, he went to a strip club. The thing that is ripping me apart is the fact that he didnt tell me, more to the point I have found out something else that made me feel really sick...he had to leave early due to over excitement. Ever since this he has not been able to preform with me. I dont know if I can trust him or not and I dont even know if I love him anymore ? :(

[Kate]

Dear Lesloc,

Trust is something that runs through all parts of a relationship and I think I would like to know I could trust someone before I got into bed with them.

Where do you think this relationship of yours is going? Do you see it as long term? Do you want a commitment on both sides? Perhaps it would be good to put your physical relationship on hold a while until you sort out the foundations of the rest of your relationship.

Kate