cheating husband

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My husband and I have been married for 11 years, he is a serviceman. As soon as we married things went downhill, I moved to Germany with him and it was like living with another man. I could go into the long story, but it is just like most of yours. Anyway, he had an affair with a woman he picked on the internet, and left me after knowing of her for less than 6 weeks. He came back, telling me it was a mistake, and since then has hit me, chatted up men pretending to be me, traded intimate photos of me with other 'couples' on the net and posted my picture on a porn site (without my knowledge and knowing my views - all bad).

He has lied to me, cheated on me, hit me, disrespected me.... and I am still here. What is wrong with me. He can be very nice. He is now cleaning and cooking, pretending he is a changed man, yet tonight whilst he is away, I have found evidence that he is looking at disgusting porn whilst I am out at work. What is wrong with him? I had an abortion in February because I had just found another message on his mobile phone of him finishing a relationship with another woman, whom he swears was just a text message relationship - but I don't believe him. I am so unhappy.

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I too have found myself in a similar position. I have been married for 9 years and I adore my husband. But we have definately had our ups and downs. I think he seems to think that he married too young and has so much to offer the (womens) world. He admitted to hanging out with another female about a year ago but denies anything happens (no proof so what do you do?) And recently I have been experiencing him on the net looking at porn and posting his pictures on singles websites. He says it's just for fun; but how is it fun when you give out your real information including your cell phone number to these women. I have questioned him about several odd phone numbers and he swears he doesn't know who it is, or intimate e-mails that he lies his way oout of. I am so frustrated and sick of his lies and ****; but it's just hard to pack and leave. (I feel your pain) ** But you have to be strong, I'm hurting but I tell myself I'm going to hit a nerve in a MINUTE and he's going to realize it's never greener on the other side.

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i am no finding myself in a simalar situation. my partner is having an affair, he too explains his way out of the most awkward questions, i have a 18month old baby due another in 6months time. plus 2 stepchildren involved. it has now got to a piont were i am afraid to say anything? he some how always turns it around to were he actually has me doubting my own mind?

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I am just afraid that my barriers are so high and my trust in people so battered that I won't let anyone near me. I have no-one to trust or lean on and have been everyone's "rock" all of my life. I am tired of the weight of everyone's problems and want someone to take the weight off my shoulders. I shout and scream at my husband all the time, which just serves to hurt me. I don't feel like I adore him - I don't even know him. I am the most miserable person - but put on this "i'm okay" face and attitude. I am cynical of everyone and the once lovely person I was is disappearing under bitterness and anger. I read about forgiveness, well I have forgiven him so many wrongs, and he just finds something else to hit me with. I am sick of it. But a part of me thinks what if this time it's going to be different. How many of you know that feeling? And how many times is it different. These guys might be bored and uncomitted, but it is us who get hurt whilst they get all the fun. Why is the world so bad.

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My case is the same as youself, only difference is my wife is addicted to dating sites,its driving me crazy since she says its only for a bit of fun.