don't know what to do

[pinky]

Hi
I had us green card when I got married. we had great time in the begining .I had my son within first year I felt so blessed after my marrige. when my son was 1 yr. I had another pregnancy and during that time it was difficult for me to stay with my husband as my green card was about to cancel. consequently i have to be back in usa. In the mean while my husband got a job in middle east he went there and I stayed with my parents during that time for 3 yrs. we couldn't see each other. In the mean while he changed his religion n became a muslim. when he came in usa he told me and he is so rigid that he just simply ignore my feelings. Now that he is usa for 3 1/2 yrs. we just simply cannot live with each other. I have full time job and my husband couldn't find a job of his profession during these 3 1/2 yrs. I am so confused whenever I say any thing he simply gives me reference of ISlam.
what should i do. Pl. help me.
thanks

[Kate]

I wonder if it would help to have someone help you to communicate with each other. You could do that through counselling or you could perhaps consider doing something like the Enrich (http://www.lifeinnovation.com/) inventories. These help you to understand and talk about the strong points in your relationship and the growth points. There has been a major change in your relationship through living apart for so long and your husband's change in religious beliefs and so there will be much to talk about and explore. Does his place of worship offer counselling - some mosque's do this. It might seem a bit daunting doing this but on his own territory he may relax and he may find some surprises in the advice he gets on how to respond to you. You will alos get a clearer picture of where he is coming from

You might find it helpful to look at our Interfaith Marriage (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/interfaith/) section too.
Best wishes

Kate

[pinky]

Thank you kate
In the past when we had some arguments and he consulted with someone in his mosque and someone said " As a muslim he should marry with a muslim woman" he should n't sleep with me until I adoopt islam and follow their rites and ritual..
It is is so frustrating that his mind sets are totally different than me. It was not in the begining of our married life. He always abuses me and my family's religion.

I am dragging my days with him