why do i do this?

[Unregistered]

i am been having an affair for 6 months, and it's not the first, i try to stop, and it always seems i am captured by another man... his look, his image, his thoughtfulness, his time???? i don't know, i want to stop, but it seems everytime i try... i get rid of one and get another! what is wrong with me... my dad cheated on my mom their entire marrage... i know the pain this will cause, why can't or won't i stop?

HELP ME!

[Kate]

Hello there,

I'm not sure why you are asking us why you keep doing this. Why not ask yourself.

How highly do you value your marriage?
What do your marriage vows mean to you?
What are you doing to make your own marriage work?
Why don't you avoid being anywhere where you are tempted to run after another man?
Tell your husband everything you are going to do and everywhere you are going and make a commitment to your self that you are never going to do anything that you won't tell your husband about.
Take a marriage enrichment programme (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/servprov/) with your husband.
Make a list each day of all the special things about him and tell him.
If you are looking for excitement, why not take up sky diving or bungee jumping to get your thrills rather than chasing other men!

In the end it’s up to you – how much do you want to give this madness up??

Kate

[nallie]

Either you don't respect yourself...or you don't respect your husband.

Figure out which it is.

you feel guilty, if you didn't you wouldn't post. Have pride in yourself to give yourself to only one man at a time. If you don't want to give yourself to your husband only, be fair to him and either stop cheating or at least tell him so he can decide for himself what he will and won't allow from you.

Or is it the pleasure to the secrecy that turns you on? You need help, you need to figure out why you are doing this & stop disrespecting both yourself & your husband by this behaviour.

Nallie