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22nd June 2003, 08:14 PM
I found out on New Years Eve my husband had been having an affair for over 5years. He travel's alot so I was unaware of the situation, but as he had an affair 6years ago with another woman I am not so trusting of him.
I thought we had a good marriage,he has been a heavy drinker for many years which has caused so many problems,but I have always been there for him. Put him before myself all the time.
When I found out about his latest affair it shocked me so much I felt numb for weeks. He promised he would never do it again, and was sorry etc etc etc.
But I have heard the same promises before.
This time I went to see a Solicitor, I wasn't sure what I wanted to do. I felt so hurt and confused.
He begged me to give our marriage another try. He was so convincing.
Our eldest daughter who is 21 told me not to listen to him, and that I should leave him. As he is always running me down,telling me I am thick or stupid, brainless, and that I would have nothing if it wasn't for him.
After his last affair he lost his job, I helped him to start his own business, I run the office for him and keep all the accounts and paper work up to date.And I am the only one who works in the office. (We are like business partners)
And all I get is a small fee, which is lower than any of his employees. But he feels that all the money the company makes is his including the small some that I earn. When he asked me to give things another try. He promised me he would go for councilling for his heavy drinking. He promised he would not travel as much, and would deligate more.
He promised he would get some anger councilling.
He has done nothing.
And over the past 6 weeks, he has started to be nasty again, I am so fed up of walking on egg shells, he shouts all the time. He fires up at silly things. He finds fault at everything I do.
My family dont visit anymore, as he is so arrogant and makes it obvious he doesn't want them here, his own family dont bother with him anymore.
my mother who is 75 years old visits once a week, she said she knows my husband doesn't want her to come. But she comes to see the children and I and will take no notice of him, he is so rude, he has gout at present and is more moody than ever.
He starting acting like a spoilt child yesterday throwing things about, my mother went out into the garden, to keep out of his way.
When I told him not to be so rude and to stop making my mother feel so uncomfortable, he started shouting she's only a dead head, hasn't got a brain thats who you take after.
The worm has now turned, why are we woman so stupid, why has it took me longer than anyone else to realize that my husband is a nasty , arrogant man who thinks nobody but himself.
I am writting this to clear my head, bring my thought out into the open. I feel so down at the moment.I want to cry all the time.
I thought we had a good marriage,he has been a heavy drinker for many years which has caused so many problems,but I have always been there for him. Put him before myself all the time.
When I found out about his latest affair it shocked me so much I felt numb for weeks. He promised he would never do it again, and was sorry etc etc etc.
But I have heard the same promises before.
This time I went to see a Solicitor, I wasn't sure what I wanted to do. I felt so hurt and confused.
He begged me to give our marriage another try. He was so convincing.
Our eldest daughter who is 21 told me not to listen to him, and that I should leave him. As he is always running me down,telling me I am thick or stupid, brainless, and that I would have nothing if it wasn't for him.
After his last affair he lost his job, I helped him to start his own business, I run the office for him and keep all the accounts and paper work up to date.And I am the only one who works in the office. (We are like business partners)
And all I get is a small fee, which is lower than any of his employees. But he feels that all the money the company makes is his including the small some that I earn. When he asked me to give things another try. He promised me he would go for councilling for his heavy drinking. He promised he would not travel as much, and would deligate more.
He promised he would get some anger councilling.
He has done nothing.
And over the past 6 weeks, he has started to be nasty again, I am so fed up of walking on egg shells, he shouts all the time. He fires up at silly things. He finds fault at everything I do.
My family dont visit anymore, as he is so arrogant and makes it obvious he doesn't want them here, his own family dont bother with him anymore.
my mother who is 75 years old visits once a week, she said she knows my husband doesn't want her to come. But she comes to see the children and I and will take no notice of him, he is so rude, he has gout at present and is more moody than ever.
He starting acting like a spoilt child yesterday throwing things about, my mother went out into the garden, to keep out of his way.
When I told him not to be so rude and to stop making my mother feel so uncomfortable, he started shouting she's only a dead head, hasn't got a brain thats who you take after.
The worm has now turned, why are we woman so stupid, why has it took me longer than anyone else to realize that my husband is a nasty , arrogant man who thinks nobody but himself.
I am writting this to clear my head, bring my thought out into the open. I feel so down at the moment.I want to cry all the time.