How do I get past the hatred?

[shannon]

I found out my partner was persuing another woman where he attends college. I read his e-mails to her declaring he thought she was the one that he could finally be happy with. The things he wrote were practically word for word what he wrote to me five years ago. When his cover was blown, he said it was nothing and that he knew he did a very stupid thing. He said he didn't want to end our relationship and wants to rebuild and start over. The problem I'm having is trying to believe his sincerity. This isn't the first time, but it is the closest we've come to parting ways. He says he's trying to work on his cheating compulsion, but yet how do I know that he being genuine this time? I'm tired of being the fool. We both had a lot of big dreams when we started this relationship and it feels like they are all shattered. I see he is trying to make it right, but yet I have my reservations. How do I learn to trust again. I'm worn out trying to find out what he's up to!

Shannon

[Unregistered]

Shannon, dear, once a cheater, always a cheater. I've been with my husband for nearly 20 years. I've had my heart broken more times than I can count. I even had a massive heart attack at the age of 43! My husband was raised by a very neglectful mother and now he seeks approval and attention from women. I know it's a headtrip of his, and I try to be understanding,and I KNOW he doesn't deliberately WANT to hurt me, but if I had it to do all over again, I'd run as far away from ANY guy named Steve! Please take my advice. You deserve better. I'm in this relationship too long to start over (although I do have my dreams that someday he just won't wake up and I can be free from this heartbreak). You deserve better. You deserve someone who will be true. dont' waste time. Cut your losses while you're still young. Trust me, please!