cant believe i cheated help!

[Unregistered]

Help! I've always argued with people saying you cant love someone and cheat on them! well it's happened to me! been having a long distance relationship with my bf for a year now and hes moving to live with me in London in 3 months. I was out and got totally out of it and started kissing a guy we didnt have more then that a month later out of it again i got of with a guy and went a bit further but no sex, I told my bf about the second guy and he has forgiven me the first guy was a good friend and him to in a long distance relationship it was like a comfort thing. I really dont know what to do i feel i cant keep it to myself although hes forgiven me for the big mess up i doubt he will if he knew i kissed another guy too. I feel like hell and will never do it again its just been so hard seeing him 3 months in a year, please help should i tell him about the kiss too or not?
I cant believe myself for doing it!

[Kate]

Are you in danger of putting the cart before the horse here? If you're sure this guy is the right one for you, then what have you been doing getting involved with other men while he's been at the other end of the country? Does that mean that if he has to go away again for a wile, you might let him down again?

Either you are fully committed to him and then you might as well consider marrying him, or you're not sure and moving in together isn't going to help. It sounds as if you'd be wise to tell him everythign that has been going on, and talk about your relationship and where it's going. If you're really right for each other, then your relationship will weather the storm, but if not then better to know now before you get too entangled in each other's lives.

Best wishes

Kate