Physical assult

[Unregistered]

I have been with my husband for five years. 3 years before marriage and two years married. In all this time he has never laid a finger on me.

Last night we were having a fight about my dog, (he dislikes my dog, and thinks that the dog is badly behaved), I was standing in our bedroom and he was standing in the hall way. In the middle of the fight he comes charging towards me and pushes me onto the bed, he then gets on top of me, puts one hand around my throat, and uses the other hand to grab my hair and pull it. I remember hearing myself choking, and for a spilt second I thought he was going to ge to far, because he wouldn't ease the pressure of his hand around my throat.

He has said sorry, and said I pushed him to far. But at the moment I don't feel anything for him, and I can't see a future with him.

Please help.

[martinfromsthelens]

this is a worrying time for you,
Its very strange that in 8 years hes never laid a finger on you and then resorts to this,
Has something happened recently to explain why he should suddenly do this now?
Either way there is absolutely no place for violence of this or any other kind and what is quite amazimg is that it started over a dog ?
My ex wife was very violent towards me but it wasnt the done thing to tell mates about it and i used to suffer in silence.
Make no mistake it is very likely to happen again you need to address this and quickly.
You say you have no feelings for him and by his actions he shares the same views towards you.
No one needs to suffer in silence in this day and age as there is lots of help available free of charge.
Dont wait till it happens again !!

[Unregistered]

Bless your heart! I hope you are taking good care of yourself and not blaming yourself. And then I hope you will not stay with him, because he obviously has some serious problems to treat you the way he did. I don't care how far he thinks"you pushed him!" What nerve! I hope you're really, really angry and won't stand for that ever again! No one has the right to treat you that way.

[Liz]

Please have a look at the information about domestic violence (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/womenrisk/) on the site and consider getting some professional advice. If you live outside the UK, then check your telephone directory or with your GP or local administration for information and contact numbers.

I agree with the others that you ought to get some professional advice and help. This could be an isolated incident, but can you risk it not being? There are programmes to help people with anger management and attitudes to domestic violence but you need to take care of your self in the meantime.

All the best

Liz