Please help!

[Unregistered]

I think I am losing my mind. I've been seeing a married man. Stupid I know. But I've fallen hard. Lately I can't cope with it. I've made myself physically sick. Mentally I am a mess. I have no one to turn to. Today is his wives birthday. Soon they will celebrate an anniversary. What is wrong with me...why can't I let this go. You have no idea of how I feel. I am out of control. I've lost all common sense. I can write this and know what I should do but I can't seem to do it. How do I let go of something I want so much?????????????????? Where can I go for help? I can't share this with anyone. I feel like I'm going off the deep end and I can't stop it. What is making me do this? Can anyone help me?

[Kate]

You certainly sound pretty upset. Perhaps you should see a doctor if you are making yourself sick.

Perhaps you should also try and get things into perspective. Will the world really end if this relationship doesn't work out? It's a marriage you're in danger of destroying. Do you really want to do that?

What is happening with the rest of your life? Do you have a job - then try and work hard at it. Do you have a hobby or friends, then get yourself busy.

This doesn't sound like love, it sounds like infatuation. Love is wanting the best for another person, not the best for our self.

This may sound brutal, but you don't seem at present to have any will to get out of this situation and to look beyond your emotions. Walk away and take heart that there will be another man somewhere who is free to give himself to you whole heartedly and with whom you can be happy.


Kate