numb in tx
1st June 2001, 10:31 PM
hello,
i need to hear from you if you have any input on this. i don't think my husband can handle the responsibilities of our children. he made a comment 1 week before he left us to my father and he said he couldn't handle the kids he would go crazy if he didn't get out..well i didn't really think he would do it. he never helped with them and i always had to take them with me everywhere i went. we have been seperated for 3 months will be 4 at the end of this month. he has kept the kids over night one time and maybe has gotten them a handful of times since he left.. he said he would fight me til the end at first when i wouldn't let the kids go with him because he was living here and there and who knows what all he was into and i didn't feel it was safe for them to go and then we stopped fighting and we sat and talked about our marriage which i hope we can work things out as i posted in what do i do earlier. but now we agree on everything its like he doesn't want them anymore. we have 2 children 2 & 4 our boy is 2 and our girl is 4 and i have a 10 year old from a previous. all he talked about was having a boy and we got our boy and he walked out on us before he was 2 years old.. anyone know what i should do?? i have told him i want to work this out and not to rush into the divorce and he said he wasn't ready to come home right now but he hasn't said anything else about the divorce but i don't know what to do anymore.. they say time will tell. but in the meantime its so hard raising 3 kids by yourself with no help except which i am grateful for the money he gives me every week. the kids are so confused and they want him home and they can't understand why he won't come home... he is only 33 years old and will be 34 this year could this be the end or is he or does he need time to think about this and in ht e meantime i am supposed to sit and wait which is hard but its worth it if it means i can get my family back.... i love him more than he will or does realize and i don't want to push him.. please any comments or suggestions would help out so much.. thank you,
numb in tx.
i need to hear from you if you have any input on this. i don't think my husband can handle the responsibilities of our children. he made a comment 1 week before he left us to my father and he said he couldn't handle the kids he would go crazy if he didn't get out..well i didn't really think he would do it. he never helped with them and i always had to take them with me everywhere i went. we have been seperated for 3 months will be 4 at the end of this month. he has kept the kids over night one time and maybe has gotten them a handful of times since he left.. he said he would fight me til the end at first when i wouldn't let the kids go with him because he was living here and there and who knows what all he was into and i didn't feel it was safe for them to go and then we stopped fighting and we sat and talked about our marriage which i hope we can work things out as i posted in what do i do earlier. but now we agree on everything its like he doesn't want them anymore. we have 2 children 2 & 4 our boy is 2 and our girl is 4 and i have a 10 year old from a previous. all he talked about was having a boy and we got our boy and he walked out on us before he was 2 years old.. anyone know what i should do?? i have told him i want to work this out and not to rush into the divorce and he said he wasn't ready to come home right now but he hasn't said anything else about the divorce but i don't know what to do anymore.. they say time will tell. but in the meantime its so hard raising 3 kids by yourself with no help except which i am grateful for the money he gives me every week. the kids are so confused and they want him home and they can't understand why he won't come home... he is only 33 years old and will be 34 this year could this be the end or is he or does he need time to think about this and in ht e meantime i am supposed to sit and wait which is hard but its worth it if it means i can get my family back.... i love him more than he will or does realize and i don't want to push him.. please any comments or suggestions would help out so much.. thank you,
numb in tx.