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30th January 2003, 07:00 PM
just short of 25th aniversary he had an affair with 1 of our tennants It lasted 6 months and I forced him to confess 10 months after the end. He let her stay. 14 months later I insited she had to go it took another 8 months. since then there have been letters and phone calls she even found religion and had her preacher call-Do I love him well that took a lot of thought but yes. It's been 5 years since the end of the affair and I still can't forget. It is always there. I still feel that it will recur. We have always been intimate extensively. I've never said no. Daily or more. So frequencey wasn't the issue. The only thing I ever refused was anal and I still refuse. I do work and he hates the time there but he can and does pop in. and he spends the check-well he hasn't paid household bill in 14 years- We don't have central heat or air the car has 112000 so I don't live lavishly. Am I bein unfair to feel this is unfair.

Kate
4th February 2003, 01:24 PM
Hi there,

Isn't there a difference between forgetting and forgiving (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/relbasictopic/forgive/) (and starting to trust each other again (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/infidelity/trust/)). I've put links in to a couple of articles that you might find helpful.

Best wishes

Kate