Making Fights Work for Your Relationship
By Kate
The Conclusion
Remember fighting constructively may not mean you end up agreeing on everything, but you should end up understanding each other better and respecting each other. You should both be winners in the end. If your fights are about power struggles, then you may need to seek some professional help. If fighting is becoming more frequent or more intense it may be worth seeking some professional advice. There may be some issue you need a detached third party to help you work through. Don’t be afraid to seek help. It’s a sign of courage not weakness!
Saying Sorry
Usually in a fight you will both have things to say sorry for. It’s not a sign of weakness to admit you’re wrong. It’s a sign of maturity and courage to take responsibility for the particular things you’ve said or done wrong. If you receive an apology, forgive your partner, and make sure they know they have been forgiven. Let it go, once you have forgiven something, it should be gone. Forgiving means accepting the pain of a hurt without making the other person pay! Making up can be fun. You’ve cleared the air, you’ve taken down a few barriers and been honest and open with each other. If you really love each other that will be the time when you will want to reassure each other of your love and take some time to soothe the pain you’ve both been through.